Too many times we give up on our relationships when there are valid options untouched. We assume meeting new people is a potent way of discarding the old folks. The point is, getting into a new relationship an evidence of you wasting a good part of your life and months with the wrong person. It's also good you know that it's more difficult building a new relationship than saving the existing one if all options are still valid. Most times in a dying relationship, whoever wants to take-a-bow is the same person to save that relationship. At the point of anger or regular misunderstanding, there will always be a million plus one reason to leave our partners, but from experience, sensitive decisions should NOT be taken in such mood: they aren't always the best. I'm aware that you have made moves to keep that relationship alive yet it looks like burning the oceans. Now it's time you rest your mind and let have a discuss.
1) Lower Your Standard
Every man/woman in a relationship have a standard even before getting into the relationship. It could be the nature of his job, what should be her highest academic certificate, his marital status or even her physical attributes. Maybe you still don't understand, i'm actually making reference to what you want and who you want as a partner. Despite that, there are some people we grow in love with; those people we never gave a chance but sure makes wonderful partners. In all honesty, you can NOT have all you desire in your partner. If you've heard ladies say - I've got the best half! Or men say - my wife is awesome! It's not like the man or woman has no fault, those words are just making imperfect people perfect. You just can't have all your desires, there will always be a minus somewhere and if not a critical part of your relationship: something related to domestic violence, you should lower it.
Oh she snores and every night you're restless. Oh he comes home late (read how to - - -). Whatever the minus of your partner that has so caught your attention and in-return influencing your decisions or reaction towards your partner, it's time you save your dying relationship by managing it or ignoring it if possible.
2) Expect Less
Nagging is always the end-point of this. She goes to work just as you, you came back expecting your food to be hot and ready but she just started cooking, young man, expect less! He just got his salary and there are 101 needs demanding attention, young woman, expect less! Get this clear, any relationship with too many expectations from both partners will get boring. Maybe you're in the kitchen doing the cleaning and cooking you think he should come over and do the dishes but there he is, glued to the TV. . .LOL. Could be tiring but expect less! In a relationship where expectations are not met, it could be better communicated but NOT emphasized.
3) Give Your Partner A Space
Yeah, sometimes we need to allow our partner go clubbing with friends. You don't have to be around him except he insist. Sometimes, allow her hang out with her friends. Seeing you both hang around each other all the time sometimes isn't love but being clueless. To save a dying relationship, once-a-while, you both could practice married-but-doing-single if you trust each other.
4) Try Something New
Let me be blunt here! A dying relationship sure has a boring routine. It could be a change of vacation spot, eatery, wears, hair-do, weekend plans and lots more. These things comes with a good measure of fresheners. It could still remain the same thing you do but different location and you could make a complete change just to try something different. Be aware that regular things could be boring and if i know that what am gonna see as your hair-do every weekend is 'ring-around', now that's boredom! Discuss with your spouse/partner, try out varieties; something not usual and that could be what your relationship needs from dying. Read Strange things that sparks up a relationship.
5) Do Things Together
There are certain things should NOT be altered and should be observed as regular as possible.
- Dinner together
- Bathing together
- Watching a movie together
- In the kitchen together (remember that's a supposed women's territory, it's romantic to see a man there)
- For men: Go in the same car: let your wife drop you off.
These things are somewhat indoor but powerful enough to save your any dying relationship. Please reflect and do observe some if not all the mentions and your relationship would be as new as the first day.
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