The Dangers of Cohabitation
Why would a guy and a lady live together when they are not tied by official papers or religious vows? Though it has become a norm in the society and also a major reason for several break-up. We shouldn't be quick to mention LOVE, as love itself comes with regrets when order is not observed. Here, I'm going to take you through the dangers of co-habitation.
1) It reduces your self-worth. No matter how many times your partner says he/she can never be bored of you and want to spend the rest of his/her life with you, such words could be better experienced in marriage than having a taste before marriage. What you have to understand is that, most beautiful and well crafted words are sponsored by emotions, and emotions does fade away at the face of reality. The reality is that you both are not married, and if by personal decision you chooses to become the acting-wife, your well-kept value would be altered and your self-worth, reduced to that of his kid-sister or even a common maid. It's as serious as that!
2) Being engaged is not being married. Now, this is the sensitive side of a relationship. He gave you a ring and all-of-a-sudden you think you are now his wife, na-ah! Lessons of life has taught us that not all engaged status transit into married. Two love-birds could be engaged for a year, two, three or even seven without a plan for marriage. How would the young man be motivated to make it official when you're unofficially leaving with him?
3) It's a shame to culture and tradition. No matter how irrelevant we make culture look, no matter how our tradition has rapidly dwindled to give the 'modern-life' a face, it has no doubt upheld our morals and ethics. In some families, culture is still highly regarded. Culture and tradition could say: "stay in your home. The man will come there and ask your parents for permission to have you with him forever". You say: "the 'old-way' is no life, I'm watching my biological clock". Care is needful because when the regrets comes, you probably going to be watching your menopause clock as a result of your wrong decision.
2) Being engaged is not being married. Now, this is the sensitive side of a relationship. He gave you a ring and all-of-a-sudden you think you are now his wife, na-ah! Lessons of life has taught us that not all engaged status transit into married. Two love-birds could be engaged for a year, two, three or even seven without a plan for marriage. How would the young man be motivated to make it official when you're unofficially leaving with him?
3) It's a shame to culture and tradition. No matter how irrelevant we make culture look, no matter how our tradition has rapidly dwindled to give the 'modern-life' a face, it has no doubt upheld our morals and ethics. In some families, culture is still highly regarded. Culture and tradition could say: "stay in your home. The man will come there and ask your parents for permission to have you with him forever". You say: "the 'old-way' is no life, I'm watching my biological clock". Care is needful because when the regrets comes, you probably going to be watching your menopause clock as a result of your wrong decision.
4) It makes you the regular person. It's natural for two people to get tired of themselves. That's why we spice-up our relationships by doing some romantic things. Even if you gets tired of one-another, why not leave that till after you are married when a little 'fight and kiss' would spice it up again? No matter how much you'd love to see your man or lady, when it becomes regular, then forget the "i miss you" part of your relationship and it could be boring beyond repair if the foundation of your relationship is built on cohabitation.
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